A second one? Yes! But when?
I've long wondered what the ideal age gap between two children was. My brother and I are 9 years apart, and despite our good understanding, there's still practically a generation between us, and sometimes it shows! I had the ideal in my head that when the first one was potty trained, it meant it was time to have another! But my life journey has completely changed my mind!
From the beginning of our first baby "project", my boyfriend and I overcame a few obstacles! While my friends were getting pregnant like cats, well, it wasn't happening for me at all! It took us a good year and a half, two years before finally conceiving this said child. When this little ball of love (so long awaited!!!) entered our lives, I wondered too often how people managed to have another one, not because it was work but because I wondered how the world managed to share their love! I had so much to give to my son and I didn't want to give him less. I wanted to give him everything and only him! But I knew deep down that I wanted to offer brothers and sisters to my beautiful baby boy. But well, that meant racking my brains with my dilemma, when? When was the right time for me to start my baby 2 "project"? I remembered my ideal of a 3-year age gap, but I also remembered my 2 years without success! We finally decided to start trying when my little one was about to turn 1! Hey, boboy!! That makes for babies that are stuck together if it ever clicks right away! But hey, I was ready to take the risk because I didn't want them to have too big an age gap (and also the little voice in my head that was always saying "what if it never works again...???")
Finally, my two babies will be almost exactly 2 years old between their births! And yes, some will tell me "a baby and a terrible two!!! Hold on to your hat" but I'm ready to attack! The truth is, the important thing in all this is to listen to yourself! There are only some for whom having babies stuck together is ideal! For others, don't even think about it. There are just no good answers to "when?". In life, we adapt and we do our best, there is no situation easier than another. You have to know how to accept surprises, the unexpected, the disappointments and the joys. A child, no matter when it happens and how it happens, it is always a gift from heaven.
Emile xxx
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