Does it happen to you sometimes, when there are little arguments, weeks when things are not going well with your lover, you think that it is possible that one day the separation will happen and it makes you freak out? Me, yes!
Separation scares me.
Scared because I don't want to see my son only every other week.
Fear because I would feel like I was missing out on parts of my son's life.
Fear because I don't want my son to grow up without his parents being together, because that's the example I had and that's what I want to show him.
Fear because whenever I need help, my lover is there.. & who would help me?
Fear because everything would become less easy to do alone.
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For those of you who, like me, don't want this to happen, here are some tips to apply in your daily life.
- Discuss your fears
- When there is something you don't like, say it right away instead of building up and exploding later.
- Take the time to say I love you to your spouse
- Give little attentions that you know the other person appreciates.
- When you come home from work, hug and kiss your spouse.
- Allow yourself at least once a month to go out with your lover
- Make compromises
I'm not saying these things are magic, but they can greatly help a couple's happiness.
To you, the separated mother or father
I am very aware that you, the separated mom or dad, have tried everything before getting to this point & that you would never have wanted this... so I say to you mom or dad, don't give up! You will get there, I'm sure of it and stop being afraid, everything will be fine.